更好地對待別人 – 張以樂，九年級
The beginning of thisyear, Love and Conflict Peacemaking Ministries held its first Children’s Peacemaking Retreat and I was lucky to be one of the first kids to arrive and to attend this retreat. At this 3-day 2-night retreat, I learned about solving conflicts at home, at school, and in life. The key to becoming a peacemaker lies in our desire to love and please God.
Little did I know that the information I have learned from this retreat would become so helpful in my daily life so quickly. Like every other teen in the world, I face friendship conflicts in life. Whether its being in the middle of two friends that are fighting, or choosing to end a friendship with someone who might not be a good influence, friendship conflicts come in many shapes and forms.
This February 2018, I made friends with a girl who I later figured out did not exactly have the best behavior or influence on the people around her. She was extremely nice to me, but could be a little harsh to other people. To those she didn’t like, she would call some unkind names, and would not treat with as much respect as she did with me. During the times in which I figured out that this was the kind of person she was towards other people, I suddenly started to recall what I had learned at the retreat earlier in the year. It was weird at first, and I really did not know how to approach her, but I remembered starting out with patience. When I heard her making harsh comments about someone, I would gently tell her to stop, but I never accused her of being harsh. Eventually, I decided to talk to her about this, because I knew she was a really good person on the inside, and wanted her to stop being someone she’s not. According to the Love and Conflict Booklet this step is called, “Talk It Out”. When we were having a casual conversation one day, I gently brought up the topic of other people. Slowly but surely, I asked her about how she felt towards them, and she admitted that sometimes she felt a little impatient towards other people, but not towards me because I was like her little sister. Throughout this whole conversation, I listened to her, made sure she knew how other people felt towards her behavior, and also made sure she knew I was in no way blaming her or telling her she was wrong. Eventually after more of this talking/listening conversation, she started to realize that her attitude towards others may have been a little harsh, and promised to have more patience towards others in the future.
Love and Conflict has taught me to better confront conflicts in life, and how to better treat the people around me that matter.